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W. Davd Phillips

Integrating Missional Thinking, Living, and Culture

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The depressed prophet

Friday, June 25th, 2010

I am working on two writing projects, one of which I’ve already started and the other that I am just beginning to think about. It is also one that is not discussed often, but that brings a lot of traffic to my site. That topic is pastoral depression.

Elijah has been a favorite prophet of mine ever since I was seminary. One of the professors there, Argile Smith, shared a message in chapel once from Elijah, talking about decision-making. It stuck, and so did Elijah. And I am going to use Elijah and Jeremiah to talk about pastoral depression.

Why do this? Well I have walked through some of those issues myself. Second, I have two major searches from google that hit my blog: missional and pastor depression. I’ve done a podcast and post on it, and that topic generates traffic, so I know it is an issue in ministry. Third, my doctoral research offers incredible insight into topic, particularly as it relates to brain health, brain function, and decision-making.

I haven’t decided if I am going to make it into a print book or just a free ebook. As I was writing out a description for my coach this morning who – as a Christian counselor and former pastor, will help in the process – the ideas became bigger than I at first perceived. This would make a full book possible, but there is part of me that would like to give it away.

Pastors and ministers do not talk about this much, but we need to have these discussions. Too many pastors are leaving ministry because of it, too many are not making good decisions because of it, and it affects too many ministries, churches, and families. We cannot ignore it.

If you think you may be depressed and would like to talk to someone who has been through it, please contact me! I was thankful to have a coach who had been a pastor and had worked through his own depression battles. I’m not a counselor, but I would be willing to help any way I can.

Who mentors female pastors and ministers?

Friday, June 25th, 2010

I put a post up yesterday offering free coaching for six months for two people. As part of the terms of my offer, I noted that the offer was reserved for males only, since I am a male.

A friend, through facebook, asked me a great question related to that part of the terms. Though not being a pastor, she asked:

since the vast majority of pastors (of all denominations) are male, it leads me to wonder how much coaching or one-on-one help is available to women who might genuinely need it. It seems like the makings for a void that could easily go unfilled. Do you know if this is a problem?

Before now, I have never considered that question, so I don’t have a good answer. But it is indeed a valid question. Who mentors female pastors and ministers? Let’s set aside any thoughts about women not being allowed to be pastors or ministers for a moment. That is not the issue. The reality is that there are women who are senior pastors, children’s pastors, youth pastors, education pastors, music pastors, etc. Where do they get mentoring and coaching? Are there enough females with experience in those roles to be mentors and coaches?

I do not believe it to be appropriate for men to mentor or coach women one-on-one, especially in ministry settings. I would also imagine that in parts of the country, women may find it difficult to find mentors and coaches in ministry.

I would love to hear from women on this. What do you think?

Free Coaching Offer

Thursday, June 24th, 2010

Last year, I was offered the opportunity to become a missional pastor’s coach with a Christian counseling group on the Eastern Shore of Maryland. The owner of the practice is a former pastor who moved into the marriage and family area as well as continuing to coach pastors. However, he was noticing a trend of younger pastors going through difficult times in their lives and in their churches, and found himself also being asked ministry-oriented questions by younger pastors and seminary students. He had been out of the ministry for a few years and wanted to bring someone on more in their age range and ministry thinking, so he asked if I would work with them as a contract coach.

I jumped at the chance-I really think that’s part of my calling. It has been affirmed in a variety of contexts and I have been doing it unofficially since college. I’ve really enjoyed the opportunity.

My specific areas of focus have been missional theology and practice, your church as a church planting church, entrepreneurial business and ministry, and life coaching.

Now to the offer. I want to broaden my scope and want to provide my services FREE for six months (6) for two (2) people. Here are the terms of my offer:

1. You receive up to 2 hours per month of phone or video coaching per month.
2. You get up to 40 email responses from me per month.
3. You get one free, autographed copy of my book.
4. The topics can be any of those listed above.
5. It must be a male.

Is there a catch? Nope. None.

If you would like to take advantage of this offer, be one of the first two (2) people to contact me through the Contact link. We will move forward from there.