From “What Do You Want to Achieve?” to “Who Are You Becoming?”

It usually starts in a quiet place.

Not the dramatic collapse people joke about in February, when the gym empties out and the new habit apps stop pinging. It starts earlier than that, and softer. A moment you can almost miss.

You are standing in the kitchen, or sitting in the car, or looking at a planner you once believed in. Nothing is exploding. No one …